You can expect your marriage counsellor to be patient, friendly, easy to talk to and nonjudgmental. This will allow you to feel that you are being heard, taken seriously and understood. You can also expect the therapist to be skillful, have knowledge, and use it rather than simply listen to you. In collaboration with you and your partner, our marriage counsellors will develop a marriage therapy plan with clear goals and methods. The therapist will then guide the therapeutic process according to that plan.
People often ask “Does marriage counselling work?” Not kind of or sort of but “Does marriage counselling really help?” Some think that they will receive marriage tips or marriage advice that may or may not work. Others expect some marriage counselling psychologist to lecture them on how to save a marriage and then they would go home and be left to their own devices. This was the case 30 or 40 years ago. Since then new marriage counselling theory and techniques have been developed that allow the couple to take their relationship to the new level. When both partners are willing to work on the relationship, marriage counselling really works. Communication skills improve significantly. The frequency of couple arguing is reduced. The intensity of couple arguing is reduced significantly.
The marriage counselling relationship is a joint project between you and your marriage counsellor. It is expected of the counsellor to be attentive and knowledgeable in the area of your concern. It is expected of you to be open and honest about your issues. If these conditions are met, couples counselling is very effective. After the first session you will be able to decide if the marriage counsellor is a good fit for you.