Sex Therapy

What are some common questions about sex therapy?

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In sex therapy, most concerns fall into two broad categories: the frequency of sexual activity and the quality of sexual connection. Frequency-related questions are raised more often—though not exclusively—by men. Quality-focused concerns tend to be emphasized more by women.

Many women describe a strong need to feel emotionally connected to their partner. While men typically agree with this in principle, the practical expression of connection often differs. Women commonly want a richer sense of closeness, communicated through conversation, presence, and non-sexual touch.

Men, in turn, often express a desire for their partners to genuinely want them sexually. They want that sense of desire to remain alive across the years and would like their wives or girlfriends to initiate intimacy rather than relying on them to do so every time. While everyone wants a fulfilling sex life, men frequently ask how to have more sex—often tied to generally higher libido—whereas women focus on how to experience better sex, given that orgasm can be more complex and take longer to achieve. These are broad patterns, of course; individual differences always exist. Ultimately, both partners want meaningful, satisfying, high-quality sexual experiences.

Accurate, evidence-based information about sex is essential for building a healthy sexual relationship. Yet facts alone are not always enough. Sex counselling or sex therapy can help uncover the relational dynamics that influence what happens in the bedroom.

Whether you are dealing with erectile dysfunction (ED), navigating differences in desire, or finding that your partner is not responding to sexual invitations, we offer professional, confidential sex therapy and sex education for both individuals and couples. Our areas of specialization include sexual performance, sexual desire concerns for men and women, and issues related to sex and pornography addiction.

The common issues include:

  • Difficulty getting and maintaining an erection – ED

  • Ejaculation control

  • Reaching an orgasm for women

  • Sexual desire and arousal for men

  • Sexual desire and arousal for women

  • Past sexual abuse

  • Sex addiction and porn addiction

  • Sexual communication

Do not wait for your sex life to improve by itself. You can do something today to start enjoying a healthy sex life. 

Common Questions

Obviously, this is a complex question. The answer probably lies in a combination of factors that has to do with the quality of your relationship, your partner’s natural sexual desire, your routine as a couple or a family, as well as various stressors in your life.

We help couples and individuals examine all possible factors that could be affecting their intimacy in a non-judgmental and safe environment. The answer will be unique to your particular situation.

In terms of performance, women usually experience difficulties getting aroused and reaching an orgasm. Men usually bring up difficulties getting or maintaining an erection as well as ejaculation control.

Your doctor can advise you on the physiological issues that may contribute to your sexual performance. We can provide you with a comprehensive psychological assessment and treatment of your performance during intimacy.

It is an unfortunate reality that a significant percentage of people, mostly women, have at least one experience of sexual abuse or another form of sexual violence against them. Due to multiple and complex factors that sexual violence is often compartmentalized and not processed emotionally and psychologically. In addition to causing personal distress, this unprocessed experience may contribute to a reduced satisfaction in your intimate relationship. We provide a safe environment where you process that traumatic experience either with your partner or alone. You deserve to feel good about yourself and your partner.

This is a complex question with no easy answer. Sometimes, due to natural differences in libido, men turn to pornography to satisfy their higher sex drive. Some women are okay with that. Other women, for various legitimate reasons, consider it inappropriate. It is important, though, to distinguish a very high sex drive or presence of pornography from a sexual or porn addiction. For something to be classified as addictive it really needs to consume the person and interfere with their life. There are other variables as well. Most men, and by far most women, do not have a sexual or porn addiction. The absence of an addiction though doesn’t mean that there is no sexual issue. A proper assessment is necessary to make that distinction.

  • Pornography addiction is usually restricted to the pornography itself
  • Sex addiction usually involves engaging in live chats, email, phone or in-person sexual interaction outside of the relationship
  • Pornography addiction may or may not lead to the development of sex addiction
  • Both pornography addiction and sex addiction may lead to a skewed view on what a healthy sex life is
  • Self-diagnosis of either pornography addiction or sex addiction may or may not be accurate

Our approach is practical and sensitive at the same time. We will provide you with practical solutions to the above mentioned issues while staying sensitive to your current situation.

During sex therapy we complete a comprehensive sexual assessment and provide you with specific exercises designed to improve both intimacy and performance. Our practical exercises for ED, ejaculation control, and issues with orgasm provide specific step by step instructions for you to achieve a satisfying sex life.

We are located in a very private and confidential setting in the City of Vaughan of the Greater Toronto Area. Yes, we are expensive, but your relationship and your sex life are priceless. Do not wait for the sexual issue to go away on its own. Contact us for a professional consultation.