Infidelity is widely recognized as a significant factor leading to divorce in North America. The same observation applies to the couples in the City of Vaughan and other parts of the Greater Toronto Area. Research findings vary, with reported rates of extramarital affairs ranging from 15% to 40% for women and 30% to 47% for men.
Couple and family therapists have noted that dealing with the aftermath of infidelity poses considerable challenges for both married and common law couples, as well as for dating couples. However, our experience suggests that when both partners are committed to addressing the affair and rebuilding trust within the relationship, the success rate of recovering from an extramarital affair, or any other form of infidelity, is quite high. This is especially true if the couple is working with a competent marriage counsellor or couples therapist.
An extramarital affair inflicts deep wounds at the very heart of a relationship, eroding trust in its wake. One partner invariably bears the brunt of the emotional injury. If the couple wishes to salvage their relationship, it is beneficial for the injured partner to embark on the journey of forgiveness, aiming to release hurt feelings and resentment. However, it is important to note that while forgiveness can be a potent tool for overcoming the consequences of infidelity, it does not guarantee reconciliation. In some cases, even after forgiveness, partners choose to part ways. More often than not, with the support of an experienced therapist, couples opt to remain together and embark on the path of rebuilding the trust that was once lost.