During a break up, once the initial anger has passed, it is important to focus on the positive aspects your relationship. This will give you a better perspective and will help you salvage your bond. What happens is that negative memories will fade away with time and the positive ones will remain. If you concentrate on the negative after the fight, the temporary breakup will become permanent.
After a fight it helps to remember the things that your partner does for you. Since what you do for your partner is more readily available for your memory, you tend to think that you actually do more for your partner than your partner does for you. At the same time your partner probably thinks the same because he or she remembers only what he/she did for you and not what you did for them.
It sometimes happens that one person initiates the process of making up more often than the other. It is a good idea to try and alternate the turn of making the first step to reconciliation. If a woman is usually the one who starts talking, it is a good idea for a man to initiate more often.