Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues
We provide counselling, psychotherapy and life coaching for individuals experiencing relational issues, as well as depression and anxiety related to their family situation. We use well established and empirically researched methods of counselling and psychotherapy to help individuals.
For relational coaching we meet with individuals whose partners are not willing or able to join them in couples counselling. We will provide you with specific suggestions on how to approach your partner differently in order to shift the relationship. It is irrelevant whether your partner is aware of what you will be doing. Once you start using the new relationship skills your partner will follow suit.
Below we describe several issues where we can help individuals in relationships
We provide effective coaching to individuals whose partner told them that they fell out of love, want to leave the relationship, or reject them in any other way. We give specific suggestions on how to maximize your chances of bringing your partner back. We first collect information from you on what you have tried so far. We then describe techniques you have not yet tried. Applying these techniques will significantly increase your chances of success.
Remember, if your partner is still around then something is holding them back whether it is children, finances, extended family, or hopefully some remaining feelings for you. If what you have been doing is not working, you need to try something else. Doing more of what is not working will not work even more! Do not repeat behaviours that create more distance.
If you are seriously thinking of leaving the relationship but you haven’t done so then you are probably torn inside. It is a very uncomfortable position to live in. The number one concern that we see in situations like that is that the person has decided to leave but the guilt is holding them back. Quite often it is not only the guilt but also the fear. It can be the fear of the unknown, the fear of losing the children or the lifestyle. Regardless of the situation, we can help you process it, which will in turn help you make an informed decision.
Your partner is distant. Intimacy is low or non-existent. There are red flags, like them guarding their phone and such. You have a gut feeling that there might be another person involved.
Only a private investigator can tell you for certain whether there is an affair or not. What we can do is help you process the red flags and other signs and to help you position yourself in a way that will make it easier for your partner to end the affair and focus on your relationship.
There are two potential situations here. One is where you feel genuine remorse for what you have done. You made a mistake and you want to correct it. The other scenario is where you are only sorry for being caught and you want your partner to forgive you, get over it and move on as usual. In the confidential setting, we can help you clarify which situation it is and how to move forward.
Have you been with your partner for a long time? Are you ready for the next step? Do you see a “do not disturb” sign around them when it comes to moving in together, getting engaged or getting married? We can help you position yourself differently in the relationship. The change will increase the chances of your partner taking the next step.
If you are having difficulties taking the next step in your relationship we can help you clarify the underlying issues. You probably feel that you cannot discuss it openly with your partner because you are concerned of hurting their feelings and afraid of their reactions. The truth is that it can either be your commitment issue or your dissatisfaction with the relationship at a deeper level. A supportive and non-judgmental environment will help you process the underlying issues and make your own, independent decision.
In addition to our expertise in relationships, we have a thorough understanding of addiction assessment and treatment. Based on the information that you provide us, we will describe to you our understanding of the level of addiction in your partner. We will then discuss how the addiction is affecting your relationship. We will then provide you with information on what works and what doesn’t work in situations like yours. Accurate information is key to success when addiction is a part of the relationship.
Well, there could be two possibilities here. Either your partner is wrong and there is no problem. In that case you do need a strategy of persuading them to stop bugging you about it. Alternatively, your partner may be right and there is a problem. In a confidential meeting, we can help you decide whether your substance use or behaviour is “within the norm” or problematic. What you do with this information is up to you, of course. At the end of the day, you decide if you want to make any changes or not. From our end, we can give you suggestions on what you can do to adjust your use and improve your relationship.
The above mentioned scenarios are the most common reasons individuals come to see us. Yours can be similar or you may be facing your own unique issue in your relationship. No matter what your reasons are, a competent therapist will provide an atmosphere where you can feel listened to and understood.